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Jocelyn Eikenburg
Works at The Wu Way
Attended Marshall University
Lives in Hangzhou, China
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My family is big on congratulating folks on their wedding anniversaries...but this tradition has kind of dropped off my radar in part b/c I'm married to a guy who isn't used to celebrating them.
Growing up in the US, I watched my parents enjoy many congrats on their wedding anniversary. Now that I'm married to a Chinese man, it all seems strange.
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(Still having a total OMG moment over this)...I'm published in The Wall Street Journal!
In China, “Are you married?” and “Do you have children?” can be the equivalent of asking, “How are you?” That can make it quite challenging for those who are childless by choice to explain their personal decisions.
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Years before, I was surprised to learn that, for John, it was easier to say “I love you” in English rather than Chinese. Read on to find out why!
All these years, my Chinese husband had told me "I love you" in English but could never bring himself to say the same in Mandarin Chinese.
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Looking for a great memoir about love and travel to read this summer? Check out Year of Fire Dragons from Shannon Young -- it's set in Hong Kong and follows the year she managed a long-distance relationship with her Eurasian boyfriend. 
"Year of Fire Dragons" details the life-changing year Shannon Young spent in Hong Kong while in a long-distance relationship with her Eurasian boyfriend.
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“Oh, I knew it would never work out…” That's a deadly phrase, but even more so when people assume things wouldn't work ONLY because you were in an interracial or intercultural relationship. What myths have you heard about interracial and/or intercultural relationships that failed?
Yes, when you choose to date outside the lines, even your breakup attracts a level of scrutiny that nobody should have to endure.
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Do you think Asian men prefer White women? This post last Friday from the Big Asian Package blogger (bigasianpackage.wordpress.com) has generated a lot of fascinating comments. 
"There have been times when I sought white women almost exclusively, excluded white women, and there's now - where the closeness I seek casts...race aside."
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Thinking about having kids in China, already expecting, or new to parenthood in the country? This article (from +Charlotte Edwards ) covers some of the major things worth discussing before making the plunge. Also, would love to hear from seasoned parents about other things you should consider!
As Charlotte has learned, having kids in China with a Chinese spouse involves more than "basics like a starry night themed nursery versus a jungle one."
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Like many Chinese, John grew up with some very negative opinions of Japan. Then one day, I heard him calling someone from the country a friend!
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Ever since John and I began dating, “wife” turned into one of his favorite names to call me. And even though it sounded like the verbal equivalent of turning a marriage into a form letter, I came to love it.
What's in a name? I may be Jocelyn, but I prefer my Chinese husband to call me "Laopo" or wife in Chinese.
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I've followed Taiwanxifu (aka +Serina H ) for some time and feel honored that she decided to share her story here -- that in the wake of divorcing her Taiwanese husband, she's also rediscovering and questioning just who she is.
Serina Huang says, “Now that I am no longer with my Taiwanese husband, I am beginning to rediscover and question who I am," feeling like a "scrambled egg."
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I know a lot of my friends out there love books -- and if you're looking for some great summer reads about love, life and travel, you shouldn't miss giveaway for three fantastic memoirs! I've read all of them and thought they were all amazing! (cc Shannon Young , +Tracy Slater , Leza Lowitz )
If you love stories of AMWF couples, here's your chance to win 3 AMWF memoirs of love, travel and life in Asia! Open to anyone in the world -- ends July 7!
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Ever been told by family you shouldn't date someone b/c of their race, ethnicity or origin? Or heard inappropriate/racist remarks about them from people you're related to? Welcome to the challenges of dating differently.
Here are three things that I’ve found challenging about meeting the parents and family in intercultural and international relationships.
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Writer
Employment
  • The Wu Way
    Owner, 2006 - present
    Writing articles, website content and marketing materials, with a special interest in helping businesses based in China (or with China operations) communicate to a Western/global audience
  • Speaking of China
    Blogger, 2009 - present
    A blog about love, family and relationships in China as well as AMWF (Asian Male, Western Female) relationships created by Jocelyn. Speaking of China has been featured on the BBC and The Wall Street Journal.
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Hangzhou, China
Previously
Ohio - Zhengzhou, China - Shanghai, China
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Writer and blogger at speakingofchina.com
Introduction

Jocelyn Eikenburg is a writer and blogger who discovered her passion for the written word -- as well as her true love -- while living and working in China. Her marriage to John/Jun, a Chinese national from Hangzhou, ultimately inspired her to blog about love, family and relationships in China as well as AMWF (Asian Male, Western Female) relationships at Speaking of China.

She has been interviewed by the BBC about her blog and cross-cultural marriage. The Wall Street Journal has also  featured her site, while other press coverage highlights include the South China Morning Post. You can find her writing in The Huffington PostMatadorAsian Jewish Life, and Global Times. Jocelyn has interviewed Celeste Ng (Everything I Never Told You) and Alex Tizon (Big Little Man), two authors whose books were reviewed by The New York Times.

Her essay “Red Couplets” was published in 2013 in the anthology Unsavory Elements alongside some of the biggest names in the China expat literary world including Peter Hessler, Simon Winchester, Michael Meyer, Deborah Fallows, Alan Paul, Susan Conley and Jonathan Watts. The 2014 anthology How Does One Dress to Buy Dragonfruit includes her essay "Huangshan Honeymoon".

A Cleveland, Ohio native now living in China, she has resided in Shanghai and Zhengzhou but now calls her husband's enchanting city of Hangzhou home. Jocelyn is fluent in Mandarin Chinese and currently at work on a memoir. She hopes to one day finally master the most uptempo Jay Chou songs without missing a beat.

Jocelyn has blogged about topics such as being a yangxifu (the foreign wife of a Chinese man) in China, interracial/cross-cultural relationships (including related stereotypes and racism), AMWF pride, and books and authors that appeal to her readership. To read the best of her work, check out this hand-picked list of her favorite posts.

Follow Jocelyn and Speaking of China on FacebookTwitterSina Weibo/新浪微博, and LinkedIn. You can also receive blog posts by e-mail or by RSS feed. Check out her Pinterest boards featuring couples of Chinese men and Western womenChinese wedding photos and more.

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  • Marshall University
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