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Jocelyn Eikenburg
Works at The Wu Way
Attended Marshall University
Lives in Hangzhou, China
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I know a lot of my friends out there love books -- and if you're looking for some great summer reads about love, life and travel, you shouldn't miss giveaway for three fantastic memoirs! I've read all of them and thought they were all amazing! (cc Shannon Young , +Tracy Slater , Leza Lowitz )
If you love stories of AMWF couples, here's your chance to win 3 AMWF memoirs of love, travel and life in Asia! Open to anyone in the world -- ends July 7!
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Ever been told by family you shouldn't date someone b/c of their race, ethnicity or origin? Or heard inappropriate/racist remarks about them from people you're related to? Welcome to the challenges of dating differently.
Here are three things that I’ve found challenging about meeting the parents and family in intercultural and international relationships.
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A heartfelt and healing story about discovering love, marriage, motherhood and a new career (yoga studio) in Japan from the fantastic Leza Lowitz. You must read this!
Leza Lowitz shares her emotional journey towards marriage and motherhood in Japan (as well as opening a yoga studio in Tokyo) in "Here Comes the Sun".
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Lovely interview! I'm almost finished with her memoir and am loving it!
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So thrilled to interview +huan hsu about his new book (you must read it)! One of my favorite quotes from this interview? "Why is China still usually interpreted through a white guy’s perspective (and it’s usually a guy)?" 
"The Porcelain Thief" deftly combines Huan Hsu’s personal experiences as a Chinese American in China, family stories, and his quest for buried porcelain.
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Lena (who is from Denmark and studying in Beijing right now) loves it when guys carry her bag. But her foreign friends can't understand her -- and even laugh at her preference. Have you ever adopted a cultural custom of another country that isn't your own and felt misunderstood because of it?
"I'm not sure how Asian my future husband will be. But I know that if he won't ask for my bag, I'll...teach him to...because it makes me feel (cared for)."
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How many of you have ever had to face a long-distance relationship? Is there any good that comes out of being separated by borders or even time zones and continents? +Margherita Orsini thinks so, and here's what she has to say about her experience!
Marghini survived a long-distance relationship (LDR) -- and discovered the unexpected joys that come from loving someone from afar.
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Do you think Asian men prefer White women? This post last Friday from the Big Asian Package blogger (bigasianpackage.wordpress.com) has generated a lot of fascinating comments. 
"There have been times when I sought white women almost exclusively, excluded white women, and there's now - where the closeness I seek casts...race aside."
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In case you don't know, my blog actually has a Chinese version! Not only is it great if Chinese happens to be your native language, it's also a fun way to practice reading Chinese. Check out this Chinese translation of " Are interracial couples of Asian men & Western women really that rare? A field report from Hong" (http://bit.ly/1nzpty9). And if you like this, I've published another Chinese translation today of "5 Fascinating Stereotypes of Western Women in China": http://www.speakingofchina.com/…/xifangnv-zai-zhongguode-…/…
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Fred回到香港来进行他的非正式“研究”,他想知道,亚男西女配是否确如我此前写到的那样稀少。("Are interracial couples of Asian men & Western women really that rare? A field report from Hong Kong")
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You might have heard about Eddie Huang (the guy behind Fresh off the Boat) and that infamous comment he made on TV (“I feel like Asian men have been emasculated so much in America that we’re basically treated like Black women.”) -- made worse by an exchange on Twitter w/ Black feminists whereupon he called them "bums" (among other things).

Awful.

I'm all for empowering Asian men, but not when it's a zero sum game and means stepping on someone else to lift yourself up. You can be a strong man who isn't a stereotypical "nice guy" and no be a jerk. And you can be a guy who supports feminists too (my husband does!).

What are your thoughts?
Why should uplifting Asian men come at the expense of others – women, and especially, women of color?
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It's incredibly scary to admit you've quit something, especially the one thing that a LOT of people know you for. 
Yes, there’s courage in writing something incredibly personal about your marriage to a Chinese man. And I should know...because I once quit blogging.
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Here's the story on how I'm going to be on CCTV with two incredibly talented foreign women with Chinese husbands - +Jess Meider and Marie Smurthwaite
The CCTV English-language show "Crossover" (a cross-cultural talk show) invited me to be on an episode about foreign wives in China. Here's the scoop!
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Love this! Looks like so much fun!
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The racist white Grandpa that ruined his 4th of July...
“The nuclear secrets. I know you came here to steal from us.... You’re Chinese, I know you are,” he says quietly, triumphantly, like he’s got me checkmated.
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  • The Wu Way
    Owner, 2006 - present
    Writing articles, website content and marketing materials, with a special interest in helping businesses based in China (or with China operations) communicate to a Western/global audience
  • Speaking of China
    Blogger, 2009 - present
    A blog about love, family and relationships in China as well as AMWF (Asian Male, Western Female) relationships created by Jocelyn. Speaking of China has been featured on the BBC and The Wall Street Journal.
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Hangzhou, China
Previously
Ohio - Zhengzhou, China - Shanghai, China
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Writer and blogger at speakingofchina.com
Introduction

Jocelyn Eikenburg is a writer and blogger who discovered her passion for the written word -- as well as her true love -- while living and working in China. Her marriage to John/Jun, a Chinese national from Hangzhou, ultimately inspired her to blog about love, family and relationships in China as well as AMWF (Asian Male, Western Female) relationships at Speaking of China.

She has been interviewed by the BBC about her blog and cross-cultural marriage. The Wall Street Journal has also  featured her site, while other press coverage highlights include the South China Morning Post. You can find her writing in The Huffington PostMatadorAsian Jewish Life, and Global Times. Jocelyn has interviewed Celeste Ng (Everything I Never Told You) and Alex Tizon (Big Little Man), two authors whose books were reviewed by The New York Times.

Her essay “Red Couplets” was published in 2013 in the anthology Unsavory Elements alongside some of the biggest names in the China expat literary world including Peter Hessler, Simon Winchester, Michael Meyer, Deborah Fallows, Alan Paul, Susan Conley and Jonathan Watts. The 2014 anthology How Does One Dress to Buy Dragonfruit includes her essay "Huangshan Honeymoon".

A Cleveland, Ohio native now living in China, she has resided in Shanghai and Zhengzhou but now calls her husband's enchanting city of Hangzhou home. Jocelyn is fluent in Mandarin Chinese and currently at work on a memoir. She hopes to one day finally master the most uptempo Jay Chou songs without missing a beat.

Jocelyn has blogged about topics such as being a yangxifu (the foreign wife of a Chinese man) in China, interracial/cross-cultural relationships (including related stereotypes and racism), AMWF pride, and books and authors that appeal to her readership. To read the best of her work, check out this hand-picked list of her favorite posts.

Follow Jocelyn and Speaking of China on FacebookTwitterSina Weibo/新浪微博, and LinkedIn. You can also receive blog posts by e-mail or by RSS feed. Check out her Pinterest boards featuring couples of Chinese men and Western womenChinese wedding photos and more.

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  • Marshall University
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