Words I stand by: Your goals should make you feel powerful in your body, not meet someone else's standards.
I was more than happy to share my thoughts on the subject of women and muscle size here in this +Women's Health
article alongside friends and homies such as Erin Brown. I'm more apt than ever these days to, rather than be all "DON'T WORRY, YOU WON'T GET BIGGER IN THE SLIGHTEST IF YOU LIFT WEIGHTS!" to note that while you will never accidentally become a bodybuilder, muscle is a damn good thing. And maybe it's worth considering shifting our goals to reflect that.
Embrace your bigness, anyone? <3