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Enter the Digital Parenting Inner Circle.
How to be a Digital Parent, the right moves, and topics like Cyberbullying, Hikikomori, Internet Addiction.

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How can I discipline my kids?
My answer
There is a time when our children grow up, and they start the awesome Path to the discover of their own Identity.

So they develop their own tastes, their own thoughts, their own feelings.
It's the way to the adulthood.

So whenever you see your child to argument and oppose to you, you see he's becoming stronger and stronger.
And they test their strength and their weakness.

Furthermore your kids test the rules of the Society they live in: the dos and the don'ts.

And you are the adult that teaches them the boundaries of the Society, and you are the force they crush against in order to test their strength.

It's a role playing game.
There are characters (you and your kids), there are roles and there are rules.

You have to keep in mind all of this when you manage your children oppositions.
It prevents you to collude with their behavior.
and now you are able to find other ways to manage the situation.

Explain rather than force.
Our kids are smarter than we think they are.
They are curious about the Life and the World and, most of all, they ask for meanings (you know their "Why?" game?).
So you explain them what's wrong, and why.

Children see, children do.
Explanation is pretty useless without the good examples.
And the very good examples are you parents.
Your children seek for examples in order to know how things are done in this world, and they start from the closest persons: you!

Always follow the weakest resistance.
No need to push things to the extreme.
No matter how hard your kids will play the game.
There always will be a key to open the door.

It's not about Command: it's about Leadership.
New generations behave different from us.
We were grown up with the unlimited respect in mind.
Our kids are more pragmatic, and they don't take care of words.
They take care of Trust!
So you don't claim for respect: you earn it by your everyday actions.
And you don't expect to earn it overnight: you earn it by a long time made of gestures, behaviors, actions...

The Punishment-Reward Strategy: a double edge sword.
While the Punishment-Reward Strategy may seem very promosing at first (you have a clear frame, a clear sequence of steps to do), it may be a boomerang in the mid-long time.

If you rely on such behavioral approaches, your kids associate the "dont" with the punishment, not with the principle that lays behind.

You don't want your kids not to behave because of your punishment, you don't want your kids not to behave because that behavior is not good for the Society.
You always have to think in a civic terms.

Furthermore, what happens when your kids are grown up and become stronger than you? Will they still listen to your punishment-reward strategy? Of course not.

Hope this helps!

PS: you can see more of this on my Digital Parenting Tips Medium Collection HERE:
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Have you ever thought about it? Even girls play videogames!
There was a time when Technology was splitted in male technology and female technology .

So male technology was about TV, video recorder, the first home computers, etc...
Female technology was about washing machines, ovens, etc...

If you think this division disappeared as technology became so available, then think again.

Simply put, the categories have changed.

Do you have any daughters?
Do you know what video games they play?

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Thank you very much for this news. I'm completely agree with you. Too much conformity can be dangerous. An excessive, pathological aversion to cognitive dissonance may be present when individuals would effectively exhibit an inability to make decisions, on account of extreme avoidance of conflicting views and change in behavior. In my experience, I know a guy using this way to say: "Energetic saving" to avoid any discussions and keep away some annoying people, often by putting on the laugh. Actually, his anger is buried and he seems really stressed out. Is this behaviour adaptive? Does it help building comfortable relationships?
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If you wonder why your children are so addicted to #socialnetworks , then you should read this study.
We are social animals, we socialize because our brains are wired to find it rewarding.
It's called #dopamine, the substance related to rewards and pleasure.
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The numbers at the Hasbro Children's Hospital emergency department are impressive: the adolescents commonly reported physical peer #violence (46.5 percent), #cyberbullying (46.7 percent) and exposure to community violence (58.9 percent).

But the very impressive news is that these numbers overlap each others, testifying that these issues are linked each others, resulting in a single multi-factorial issue.
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Parenting in Digital Age.
About our Children and the Digital World they're going to live, from a Professional point of view

Also Cyberbullying, Internet Addiction, Hikikomori and other issues.

The more I study Cyberbullying the more I get aware of its complexity.
Understanding issues like #cyberbullying, #internetaddiction and #hikikomori requires a broader view and a deeper understanding of the Web of Things and how our Children cope with it.

It's the evolution of the Path we started together some time ago, and I'm proud to make this Journey with you.

You can join the new #telegram Channel by clicking the link below:

https://telegram.me/hackingcyberbullying
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How does Cyberbullying usually start?
The more I study Cyberbullying and other related issues, the more I see the Human Being has the same mental processes as in the past.

The expression of these processes differs.

The Web brings another piece to the puzzle: maybe for the first time in the human beings history the message is affected by the medium, and the latter affect our minds (for the good and the bad).

So we have to take the usual mental processes about deviance and enrich them with the new technology.

It’s a Digital World.
Our children live a blended Reality, where Digital and Offline are not two sides of the same coin: they are the coin!

Video games replaced the real world, and our children take example from them when they feel the need to understand how the World works.

It’s an old story, a role once delegated to prehistoric campfires (think about Myths), then to the street storytellers (think about fables and spoken novels), books, TV, now video games.

( https://medium.com/hacking-cyberbullying-and-digital-parenting-tips/our-children-and-the-digital-world-they-re-going-to-live-c3396cd2027f )

The insurgence of the Hybrid Identity.
As Online and Offline merge and blend together, our children are not able to discern the different Identities as we are.

That is, we lived the pre-Web, so we can somewhat compare how Life was before to how Life is after, so we are able to stay aware of the different Identities.

Our children aren’t.
The Web is to them the same as the air is to us.
The Web is, period, and nothing more.
The Web of Things is going to push this process any further.

( https://medium.com/hacking-cyberbullying-and-digital-parenting-tips/between-real-reality-and-virtual-reality-the-third-option-a981e7b70ddb )

So many Identities, and so much confusion.
It’s still early to define how the presence of so many Identities may create confusion in our kids mind.

Anyway, in my professional study and practice, I see children need stability and recurrence.

We always lived many Identities: scholars, boyfriends/girlfriends, sons/daughters, father/mother, co-workers, friends, etc.

Though we usually endorse more than one role in the same period of our Life, in the offline the different roles have stronger boundaries.

So I am a co-worker from 9am to 5pm, and father and husband in the evening and in the weekends.

The Online makes these boundaries collapse.
So it’s evening, and I am a husband, when my smartphone rings a notification: it’s my business partner asking for an urgent issue I have to solve before the morning after.

So I have to shift from being a husband to being a co-worker…while at home!

Think about our children: they play so many games, they chat in so many groups, and they are requested to shift these different Identities in a matter of a second, and reshift again after just 30 seconds.

Very distracting, and so much confusing.
And with confusion stress and anxiety come.

( https://medium.com/hacking-cyberbullying-and-digital-parenting-tips/how-many-identities-do-you-live-397e0f4b2134 )

So why Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying is a multi-factorial issue.

Cyberbullying as Social and Emotional issue.
The more the Social disease, the more the fear and the anxiety, and the more the anger.

Cyberbullying among teens, as well as Bullying, is expression of the uneasiness.

Furthermore, the Cyberbullying act aims to humiliate the victim on a psychological side: the observers have an important role here.

The more the observers, the more the psychological humiliation, the more the success of a Cyberbullying act.

( https://medium.com/hacking-cyberbullying-and-digital-parenting-tips/beyond-cyberbully-and-cyberbullied-the-third-absent-5c7c4dc2c68 )

Cyberbullying as Moral issue.
Video games are reported to enhance our children’s lower cognitive skills (i.e.: spatial skills) and reduce their abstract skills.

We need abstraction to find a higher meaning from our Reality.
So our children grow up more and more pragmatic, and they may lose the ability to find Values and Missions.
When this happens, they take care more of the penal punishment rather than the moral values.

The Cyberbullied meets the Cyberbully.
Here the Cyberbullying becomes a Relational issue.

That is, researches found a correlation between Cyberbullying and Emotional disease of the victim, like Depression or other mood disorders.

( https://medium.com/hacking-cyberbullying-and-digital-parenting-tips/is-cyberbullying-as-mass-medias-tell-to-us-bad519808a8b )

#cyberbullying #parenting #abuse #harassment #cybersafety
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Cyberbullying on Instagram - How do Teens talk about it?
(from my Snapchat Educational Videos at ivan_psy)

- Cyberbullying is not a rite of passage. It should not be seen as "part of growing up"

- Be a Hero, not a Bully.

- Have you ever thought about it? Words hurt!

- Words words words. If you think words are just characters, think again. Words are messages, they penetrate our Soul.

- Stop Bullying! Simply true. No further words for it!

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People who regularly provide high levels of support to others showed a reduced response in regions of the brain related to stress and their brain shows most activated areas related to rewards. I'm wondering: this amazing condition happens in psychologist's brain also?
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UK setting #porn age checks: protection for our kids, or limitation to the freedom of speech?
Porn blocking: The UK wants age checking on all porn websites
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  • Università degli Studi di Torino
    Psicologia, 1997 - 2003
  • Specializzazione Analisi Bioenergetica
    SIAB Milano, 2006 - 2011
  • Specializzazione Trattamento Biodinamico
    Centro Costellazioni Famigliari e Trattamento Biodinamico Toscana
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Internet is not just a tool: it's a new way of Thinking, towards a new way of Living
Introduction

Psychologist Psychotherapist, I have a Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology from 2003.

I mastered in:
  • Neurolinguistic Programming (2001)
  • Bioenergetic Treatment (2009)
  • Bioenergetic Analysis (2010)
  • Biodinamic Treatment (2011)

I deal with teens from 2000.

I am currently a freelance in the Emotion Management field: I deal with Emotions, Energy, Stress, Anxiety, Personal Growth, Life Changing.

I partner with many Companies related to Internet and New Technologies.
My research focuses on Internet, New Technologies and how they impact on our lives and our minds.
I study about how teens uses the New Technologies, and I offer parenting services about that.

I offer offline therapy and online counseling.

Thanks to the integrated approach of body techniques and mental techniques I help anyone to
  • rediscover his energy
  • joy of living
  • to be comfortable with himself, and his life
though apparently there seems to be no way out.

In my work I teach effective and proven techniques to help you:
  • find out what prevents you from enjoying Life
  • explore alternative solutions
  • put all of this into practice

Bragging rights
Facing myself all day all days: if you think it's easy, think again... ;-)
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Psychologist, Bioenergetic Analyst, web addicted
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Anxiety, Stress, Panic Attack, Psychosomatic, Finding the meaning of your Life
Employment
  • Hikikomori Cooperativa
    Psicologo Nuove Dipendenze, 2012 - present
  • Galdus Istituto Professionale
    Formazione Adolescenti Comunicazione, 2012 - present
  • Cooperativa La Vita
    Educatore Sostegno Minori in difficoltà, 2011 - present
  • Psicologo Milano Analisi Bioenergetica
    Psicologo Milano Analisi Bioenergetica, 2009 - present
  • ISA Ghemme
    Educatore Sostegno Minori, 2009 - 2011
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