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Gordon Atkinson commented on a post on Blogger.
Your statement "culturally it feels wrong," is important, I think. I think we meet the expectations of our culture for good parenting. When I was a child there were no car seats. I used to stand on the front seat next to my dad. If there had been a wreck and I had been ejected from the car through the windshield and died, people would have thought it was a terrible accident. But no one would have blamed my dad.

Now, if my child isn't in a car seat and something happens, I would be seen and maybe even confronted for being a bad parent. I don't mean to suggest that our motivation for following the cultural parenting rules is to avoid blame after an accident. But I think we instinctively need to do all that is expected of us.

For me overprotection exists on a continuum. Some parents are more protective than I was but nowhere near levels of emotional danger. You guys sound pretty healthy to me. Just to be asking the question is a very good thing.

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Gordon Atkinson commented on a post on Blogger.
Also, I love reading your stories about your life. They have a nice, calming affect on me. Knowing you, I would say your calming presence seeps into your writing.

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It's really quite an amazing thing to guide our children into and through their first discoveries that the world isn't safe. Of our three kids, two of them generally shrugged things like 1-flippered turtles off. One of them would obsess about things like this though, unable to get beyond her thinking. It caused some trauma now and then. I remember a stage (after a visit to a museum) where she was frightened that she was going to someday be a mummy in a museum herself, wrapped in cloth and laying motionless on a table for years and years. This thought brought great horror to her.  It seems to be her lot in life to worry more than most, even now at 21. She just has a harder time moving on and thinking about other things.

It's an interesting parallel process, isn't it, to feel her pain with her and to let it be her pain, just as you are hoping she can let Calypso's one-armed life be its life to navigate and deal with. Occasionally I felt stuck in my children's pain. Not so much as the years go by. Exhaustion helps. There are only so many burdens a father or mother can carry.

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Gordon Atkinson commented on a post on Blogger.
Given how incredibly smart and well-read you and Jason are, I hesitate to chime in. But I love fires in fireplaces and making them. Thought I would offer a couple of ideas.

Perhaps most important is knowing that the firewood you have is well seasoned. It really needs to have been dead for quite some time. "Green" firewood looks like typical firewood but it is very hard to get it burning. It burns but you need a VERY hot fire going to light a green log. If your wood isn't nice and dry and seasoned, no amount of kindling and technique will light it, particularly in a cold fireplace.

If you've got nice seasoned wood, then get a firestarter block and light it. You can even position it on the grate and put a candle under it to make it easier to light. Once it is going have several sizes of kindling. Start with the smallest and make a "teepee" shape. As it goes, increase the size of stickes with a larger teepee. Always make sure there is plenty of room for oxygen between the sticks.

With this method, you'll eventually be using branches and small pieces of whatever hardwood you have. Once those are burning nicely and have a few coals at their base, you've got enough heat present to carefully position a larger log.

If possible, use a split log and not a round log with bark all around it for the first one.

Please forgive if this sounded as preachy and elementary as I feel it did. I just want you guys to enjoy that fireplace.

Also you are missed in Texas.
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