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Online counselling for individuals, couples, parents, adolescents and children.
Online counselling for individuals, couples, parents, adolescents and children.

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By Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor
PARENTING AND DISCIPLINE

Are you a make shift parent or a conscious one...?
Raising children in a way that they remain well mannered and disciplined is everyone’s dream. At the same time teaching children what we expect from them as parents is an everyday task... Hence it’s very important that we accept that child rearing is a consistent and continuous task which requires parents to develop parenting skills throughout every life phase. Sometimes we are able to learn through our experiences or talking to friends, but some other times there is no harm in calling in for help or researching on the problem you are facing.
Younger children do not have well developed logic, that is also why they do not have good control over their behaviour....

To read more, visit
https://familycounselling.co.in/blog/best-parenting-tips/
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By Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor
MARRIAGE COUNSELLING

Why being together is not enough..?
A couple’s relationship or a marriage is the most intimate form of human relationships. It’s a significant source of well being and happiness. The reality is that to make the romantic beginnings spread into a lasting relationship is not simple. Conflicts are a part of every partnership involving a person, which remains the same for a couple. This relationship being the closest of all, while on shaky grounds, it sometimes deeply impacts every aspect of your life. You feel stuck and helpless.
I give you below some relationship advice that can help your couple maintain its relationship in order.
• Couples need to communicate: It’s a key point in maintaining a healthy relationship....

To read more, visit
https://familycounselling.co.in/blog/relationship-advice/
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By Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor
HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER

Delay, communicate, manage your anger. It makes you powerfull!
Anger ranges from mild annoyance to rage. It is important to the survival of any species. It helps you realise stress. It is a normal healthy human emotion when it is in your control. But when it takes large proportions and is out of your control different areas of your life gets affected like work, interests, relationships and health. You lose out on a significant aspect of human personality which is self control and you end up living at the mercy of your emotions. Hence it is mandatory for your well being that you learn how to control your anger. With consistent practise anyone can develop self control skills....

To read more, visit
https://familycounselling.co.in/blog/anger-management/
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HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF ESTEEM?
by Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor

We all know that self esteem means how we evaluate ourselves. It is a self opinion that over a period of time gets shaped with the help of our experiences. When we have a positive attitude towards ourselves along with a feeling that we are competent enough to handle the challenges and perform roles which constitute our life efficiently we have a high self esteem. It makes us believe that we deserve happiness and encourages us to dream, desire, take risks and work towards our goals. It helps us confront issues and have a problem solving approach towards life. It makes such socially attractive. It contributes in excessive measures to an individual productivity thereby creating more opportunities for success. A person who believes in himself is happier and healthier. 

On the other hand when you suffer from low self esteem you do not appreciate yourself and find yourself inherently worthless. You compare yourselves and your life with others unfavourably. There are feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, inferiority. You find yourself incompetent to be able to meet life challenges and fulfil significant task. Thereby you do not set goals or wish for anything in for yourself. You avoid social situations and take peoples feedback as criticism. Due to your attitude towards yourself you lose opportunities to perform and keep making mistakes...
To read the full article, please visit https://familycounselling.co.in/low-self-esteem

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Avoiding your problems will only make you weaker. Face them. Unresolved issues are seeds to anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, frustration, anger, hatred or jealousy. These conditions and emotions shake the foundation of your relationships and also causes health problems. Ultimately your quality of work and life suffers. Let out your problems, get professional help. Free register yourself now at www.familycounselling.co.in and speak to an online counsellor through phone or video calls...
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HOW TO CHANGE MY PERSONALITY?
by Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor
During my sessions, people often ask me questions like "How do I change my personality?" or "How can I improve my social skills?". It is quite natural that at some points in life, we wish we could change our personalities so that others like us better. It could be something like wanting to be more organised, outgoing, talented, talkative, funnier, etc; Most of us behave differently in different situations like work, social life, family gathering, parenthood, etc; It is possible to develop certain traits in us. We should begin with finding out our positives and build on them while minimising our negatives.
Personalities are not always exclusive of each other. We so have things in common with others. If one wants to completely change ones personality, it should come from within and not just to get rid of negative comments. As more often than not, a complete personality change is regretted and abandoned by us once achieved. Rather than wanting to change ourselves completely we should look at adapting to different surroundings we interact with. That is one attractive quality one must try to develop in order to be comfortable with others.
Sometimes, you behave differently when you fear being rejected by others. You become more self conscious. This makes you loose your self esteem and you feel awkward and helpless. You start over analysing everything said and expected. The reason why you are not accepted by others and are not able to develop social relationships is your lack of self acceptance. You are not a happy person. In order to be accepted by others, you should start developing independence and enjoying your own self company. You should learn to be proud of yourself and accept yourself whole heartedly. This will improve your genuineness and public image.
Apart from this, small little things that you can keep in mind while in presence of others is to be careful not contradicting yourself. If you do not feel you have something important to give perspective on, it is fine. Do not force yourself to speak to fit in. You should rather focus on asking others some questions and speak when you have something to add. It is always satisfying to find people you share comfort with. In order to do that find hobbies and activities that give you pleasure. Step out your house with the goal of participation and you will find likeminded people. These will give you social platforms to develop self esteem.
At the same time, there are certain traits of personality that push people away from us in the long run. They include but are not limited to: feeling of superiority, snobbishness, undue self importance, domination, disrespect, dishonesty, frequent mood swings, unpredictability, dependency and negative thinking. Do figure out whether you possess some of them and work at minimising them along with developing your positive traits.
If you still want to change your personality despite the above suggestions then carefully jot down your positive and negative points. Focus on the points you want to change. Speak to close people about it. Stop labelling yourself into negative categories as this will make you act accordingly. Similarly, be conscious of your negative thought patterns as it will instigate you to behave in a way to make it come true. You will be more open to change when you stop programming yourself with negative thinking and fixed beliefs about yourself. Nothing is changed, you are constantly growing. Do the opposite, start feeling and thinking that you are closer to the traits you chose for yourself. Reward yourself each time you take a step closer to the traits you chose for yourself. This could be both by appreciating or treating yourself. In fact, for you to efficiently achieve your goals you need to be yourself. Do not play safe. Spend time in new environments and be open to participation. Move out of your comfort zones and be ready to receive negative criticism. If you have clear goals you should learn to ignore negative comments and keep learning and growing. 
You will feel settled with the changes only if you are changing for yourself in order to be a better person and not for others. If you try to change your whole personality, you will get frustrated and get back to your original self. You should only look at enhancing your positives and minimising your negatives. You can pick up some habits but cannot completely change yourself in order to derive happiness. You should also take into account that change is a process that takes time and persistence. Once you are aware of yourself and accept yourself you can start recognising the traits in your behaviour that you need to change and work towards it. You need to be more conscious of yourself and not make assumptions and labels.
If you have personality complexes and don't know how to overcome them, feel free to talk to me by signing in at https://www.familycounselling.co.in/booking/index.php/registration-page
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THE HIDDEN SIDE EFFECTS OF CHILD BULLYING
by Richa Khetawat, Family Counsellor
Bullying is a pattern of forcing someone to do something by intimidating or causing him/her physical harm. It can also be described as a repeated pattern of humiliating someone which is causing the person continuous distress. It can be verbal, social, physical or psychological, and can also happen through cyber space (phone, email, social media). Most common childhood episodes are verbal and social. It is dangerous for all parties involved i.e. the victims, bullies and also a few bullies who have turned victims. Both girls and boys are bullied and bully both genders. Bullies threaten the victims into silence so it often goes unnoticed.
Bullying includes but is not limited to: name calling, teasing, pushing or shoving, stealing things, spreading rumours, threatening, hitting, humiliating, singling a child out, pasting offensive content on social media, sending messages and mails, or sexual remarks.
Victims are often children who get provoked easily, are unpopular with friends and find it difficult to understand social cues. 
Bullying can be occasional or may happen over a long period of time. Both have effects which could be far reaching to the growth of the child and the subsequent adult life. Short term effects could be nightmares, bedwetting, sleep disturbances, feelings of shame, fear, guilt, embarrassment, unhappiness in school perhaps missing school, dropping of grades, withdrawal and loneliness, problems adjusting with others, anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, headaches, self harm behaviour, etc.
It does not usually end in childhood. Individuals who have been bullied carry the experience with themselves even in adult life decades later, throughout their life span. Research shows that bullying harms a growing child turning into an adult by causing psychological disorders, physical illnesses, cognitive impairments, social disorders and reducing overall quality of life.
Bullying demands a physiological response to the situation like other stressors do. So with chronic bullying, there is a release of hormone called cortisol that is released when the body prepares itself to fight with stress. Due to this constant stress, the body loses its endurance to face challenges as an adult as there has been constant fighting with the stress of bullying as a child. In a way, the immunity towards stress reduces and it is difficult for an adult to cope up with the day to day challenges of life. This increases the risk of physical illnesses and also emotional social behaviour gets impaired. It could lead to adult headaches, sleep problems, frequent infections, anxiety, depression, social adjustment difficulties, self esteem issues, difficulties in empathizing with others’ feelings, lying, drug abuse or frequent casual unprotected sex with strangers.
On the other hand, bullies could be children showing signs of dysfunctional families, maladaptive communication patterns at home, etc. If not taken seriously they can get into crime by early adulthood. They can also become victims and face similar and perhaps more serious consequences than victims. They become vulnerable. They can get into substance abuse, a serious psychological or physical condition.
We cannot tolerate bullying as a normal childhood phase as it has got serious life consequences. It can be prevented with good school level programmes and counselling of both bullies and victims along with their families.
If your child is victim of bullying and you do not know how to handle it, online counselling can help you deal with this situation. Please visit https://familycounselling.co.in
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