Which sort of talk do you use? When rules fail us, is there any recourse? Barry Schwartz and Kenneth Sharpe believe the answer lies with something that Aristotle called "practical wisdom," which changes the dialogue on how to do the right thing.
Child freethinkers are great to talk to, and this girl, Mason Crumpacker, is particularly wonderful. I recommend reading the full interview; she's got a great perspective on religion, the way kids should be treated, and life as a whole. Enjoy!