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I agree with their advice. If the company wanted to retain you, they needed to do the right thing first, without being faced with your departure.
It's happened to most of us at one point or another: you turn in your notice at a job, and the company scrambles to make a counteroffer designed to make you want to stay.
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This matches the advice I have long given. You've already tipped your hand as a flight risk. The company would have to be pretty dumb if they didn't begin the process of working around you immediately, and who wants to be in that position?

The only exception is when the counter is to be given extra money to stay for a given period. I'm OK with that, as long as it is finite and understood they are paying you a premium to solve their transition problem.
Yes, then both sides are entering into the agreement with full knowledge that something is going to change in a finite amount of time. I would consider that more of retention payment than a typical counteroffer.

Counteroffers have always bothered me. They muddy the waters and it seems like one last effort by your current employer to manipulate you. It just feels wrong. Then again, I pay close attention to my intuition on issues like this, too.
Some people feel it is a negotiation game and consider it rude not to play along. I'm not justifying it, but I am pointing out that some expect if you are not happy then you will quit, fully expecting that they will make you a better offer. If a salesman is in charge of HR this is likely the case.
I always found it a silly game to play to have to threaten quitting to get a raise, but I have seen plenty of companies where that is the case. Blah!
Counter offers sound like they'd be a challenge. Another related game is a layoff with "We might call you later." ending. I actually declined an offer to go back to the same company days later for a couple reasons. One was the awkward feeling.

Thankfully I chose between 3 job offers 2 weeks later.
Yes, the layoff and rehire thing feels squinky, I agree. My thoughts always go to "Well, am I worth something to you, or not? Make up your mind!"
+Douglas Welch Background on that. Consulting company. Lack of work for a couple months and then a client finally came through a couple days too late. Was very tempted because it was related to game development. They thought of me because I have an interest in that area. They offered to make it like I never left.

Still, too much stuff made me uncomfortable.
You know, any time you get to play in the negotiating arena, it provides a great learning experience. I think if an offer is made, you should show good faith by at least entertaining it. Think about it. Ask some questions. You never know! Then, if it still doesn't feel right, thank them for the opportunity and respectfully decline,
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