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Nuns and Quantum Mechanics

Today I have been thinking about expectations. We all have them. Most of our specific expectations are found in idols we form concerning other people, though some are depersonalized expectations about life or perhaps our vague notions of God.

We say, This person has not lived up to my expectations, This job was not what I expected, or sometimes more simply I didn't expect this. I think we should seriously consider whether or not these expectations are a blessing or an anchor around our necks.

Recently as I looked across a lunch table, I said to my new friend, I didn't expect to have a conversation with a nun about quantum mechanics. If I had left myself stuck in my view of monastics that I had some few years ago, I would never have had the joy of that conversation.

More personally, what if my wife was merely what I expected or my children, or friends, or college, or my year of living in London? I believe there is a superstitious belief (in fact, magical thinking) that expectations create the future. I am so glad that they don't.

I do not know what to expect from God either and maybe that is the first step  in ending a relationship built on control (the illusion of it at least) and on built on love.
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Expectations don't create the future. But they can certainly influence the future. Sometimes a great deal.
Anyone who thinks they know what to expect from a monastic is almost certainly in for a great surprise.
+Joseph Moosman from my experience the only thing expectations do to control the future is limit us and therefore it. I do not spout platitudes about life being an adventure, but it is greater than we expect and so expectations can only diminish it.
Yeah, +David Dickens I'm not a big fan of expectations either. But I wouldn't go so far as to say they "only diminish".
Too many people are afraid to open up a conversation with a monastic person.  Judge a book by it's cover me thinks?  

A few of the many that I know personally have a PhD in something outside of theology.    Most are education but one is physics.  
I can only speak to my experience. +Joseph Moosman Expectations, at least as I characterize them here are manifestations of our desire to control the world around us--to objectify, rather than experience truthfully and to utilize rather than cooperate. I cannot conceive of them opening up a larger world to us beyond ourselves because they are compelled motivations from within us.
I would not dismiss your point and certainly believe it is possible to consider expectations merely as the natural end-result of understanding. However, I have yet to meet a person who wasn't using expectations as a means of control in practice.
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