Balance in All ThingsIn Chinese philosophy the concept of Yin and Yang (
http://goo.gl/ib7Y) explains not only how opposites define each other, lending identity to their antithesis but also how the existence of one becomes the very seed that brings the other into being.
I grew up at a time when “the battle of the sexes” was the subject of both TV sitcoms like
Eight is Enough (
http://goo.gl/KvEHg) and practically every male bastion that labored under the institutionalized sexism (
http://goo.gl/7ItVMv) that was the norm of the time.
These are more enlightened times. Or so we would like to think. The 70s are almost half a century behind us and yet the ‘enlightenment’ gained, in that time, with so much energy and effort is a fragile one. Part of the attitude goes underground to surface perhaps in the intensity of the abortion debate in the US (
http://goo.gl/EHzrw4) which itself is an expression of a dynamic between a woman’s ability to choose independently what she wants to do with her body and society’s historical view of her as a commodity.
Funnily enough the very reason such issues are so persistent is not because women are of no value. Quite the opposite in fact. There is a tacit and complete agreement in their intrinsic value which then leads to the intellectual tangents we observe that overlay the question of who, exactly, controls that value.
As in all things that are systemic, value = power. Power is always worth wrangling over because it ensures status, security and (arguably) greater choice of women (for men) – greater access to value. At times we seem to be no better than lab rats exhausting ourselves on a primordial biology treadmill.
Take the conflagration that became GamerGate. A single, impassioned (and perhaps ill-advised) blogpost of a man who felt jilted enough to pour his angst on the web in what is known simply as
TheZoePost (
http://goo.gl/BIrw8I). Target of that angst is Zoe Quinn (
http://goo.gl/VQsNu7) who found herself the lightning rod for everything that’s wrong with anonymity on the web (
http://goo.gl/N6uuOP) as an all-out assault was led upon her by the 4Chan crowd and a host of forum-posters who, in their collectivity succeeded in signaling that misogyny and the wrangle for power is far from over and that ‘enlightenment’ is purely subjective.
Depressing as the thought might be, that we appear only to progress at times, it is heartened by the fact that our times are more transparent, at least and the individual is far from powerless against the mob. Zoe came out swinging (
http://goo.gl/NJqqqt) with posts of her own. The Press weighed in with the “Gamers are misogynist” issue:
http://goo.gl/44V5TS. Predictably hate mobs and their dynamic came into focus:
http://goo.gl/r7QWCd. The role of the Press became key:
http://goo.gl/kdkH5V and the man who sparked it all off, unrepentant (if still, somewhat unfocused) was the subject of at least one interview:
http://goo.gl/RqfRnn.
Before you write all this off to the madness of the digital age, anonymity and the stupidity of not thinking about responsibility when you have the power to publish to the world from your desktop, consider that if we remove the modern setting this sits comfortably with “the mob in the village square” (
http://goo.gl/xcwNFj) which, ironically led to the development of the world’s most popular sport.
At a slightly more elevated level is the debate of women in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) which on G+
+Buddhini Samarasinghe has worked for (
http://goo.gl/OC06sL) and
+Marisa Goudy has supported (
http://goo.gl/0A8DyQ).
Many of the ‘arguments’ we face in the digital age, once analyzed, come down to the same root cause. There is a primal, ancient, part of us that reacts along predictable ways that are at odds with what we are trying to achieve as people and as a species.
It feels, at times that we are sliding back into darkness, that we are losing things we value but we are not. We’re having conversations that are passionate, deep and global. We are using our ability to understand things better because we see more of what’s going on as a forensic scalpel that by degrees is stripping back layers of our society (and often times of ourselves) exposing the raw nerves running beneath.
The pain we feel (and the horror, at what we find) are part of the healing process. We cannot progress if we do not feel what we are feeling. We cannot move forward without taking that “long, hard look” at the skeletons in our closet, the demons in our psyche.
Which kinda leads us full circle, back to Yin and Yang as the Oxford Leadership Journal examines the impact of the Feminine Principle (
http://goo.gl/W7LMnB) and studies are beginning to show that companies with more women on the Board do better:
http://goo.gl/m19vk2. And this at a time when the data also shows that female CEOs make less than their female counterparts:
http://goo.gl/iv5Ny7.
Today for every post that unearths yet one more part of the world that somehow refuses to move on:
http://goo.gl/wuWe1E we have another that shows a problem aired can begin its journey towards a solution:
http://goo.gl/xSKUVI.
Neural science tells us that men and women are wired differently:
http://goo.gl/O18TMb. The study’s researchers make a point that while if any inference can be drawn from this is just how complementary male and female brains are:
http://goo.gl/Qk2mgj. When the Dutch philosopher, Desiderius Erasmus (
http://goo.gl/1vRaC) compiled
Adagia his collection of Greek and Latin proverbs he included the oft quoted “Women, you can’t live with them, can’t live without them) -
http://goo.gl/vGop8D. Beyond its folklorist populism, the saying takes back to the dynamic of Yin and Yang:
http://goo.gl/yDpB6C. One without the other cannot exist.
Balance and harmony comes not with ‘victory’, the overcoming of one by the other (as we saw with the Capitalism/Communism argument:
http://goo.gl/r2SFtm), but by a harmonic tension that maintains their individual natures in a way that each completes the other. As the debate about equality, the rights of women and men’s ability to deal with their presence becomes global, gets even more complicated with questions of faith and culture, it serves us best, perhaps to remember that.
Regardless of your sex I hope you’ve done the needed thing and stocked up on some good quality coffee, some croissants, donuts, cookies (and maybe, cake?). It’s Sunday, still, so have a great one wherever you are.
PS. There is a
Sunday Read circle for those of you who want to be notified. If you let me know I will be only too happy to include you.
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