Like anyone else, I too have the potential for violence; I too have anger in me. However, I try to recall that anger is a destructive emotion. I remind myself that scientists now say that anger is bad for our health; it eats into our immune system. So, anger destroys our peace of mind and our physical health. We shouldn’t welcome it or think of it as natural or as a friend.
Lama your so humble - your admitting that you too are human and not perfect. Some people like the Westboro baptist church openly say they're gods chosen people and stuff, but they aren't perfect. Far from it. But you, your holiness are humble enough to say you, a wise man like yourself aren't perfect and have the same emotion everyone else has :)
+tianjun yin anger has much negative energy, it's bad for our purification. like the action and reaction, one makes you up and the other makes you down, it is the law of human body and cosmic, like yin and yang. so keep your mind unmoving. so we need reflect our mind constantly. further more, anger will cause bad karma.
I don't think Mr.Lama and his follower will ever be able to control the destructive emotion.. We can see many Tibetan refugee living in exile in different part of the globe who were/are using their 'destructive emotion' as a weapon of protest. Am i wrong?
Off course this is not bad idea but it is so ritualist and traditional one. Some scientists also say that anger has its positive side in it. It contains the power and or energy. People having no-energy is better than the people having anger. The best way is people should not care the anger much so that it could not reach to the harmful conclusion. Paying less attention to respond the anger badly may lead the people to be positive gradually.
yes anger is a part of humen behaviour but we have a mind and lots of thearpy to learn how we avoid angerness when we face the situation and in every religion books are provide the way .which helpfull for a peac full living
A very wise man once said "anger dwells only in the bosom of fools" (Einstein).
I always hope that one day humanity may surpass this evolutionary baggage in its quest for peace; I respect the Dalai Lama in that he advocates a policy of compassion and mutual understanding which all people of all nations must either come to accept in the future or be forced face the inevitable consequences of their refusal to do so.
Should it honestly be so difficult as to place yourself into the shoes of others and see a situation from their point of view? Without such willingness to do so, perhaps humanity will continue to plummet deeper into the hatred and ignorance which has separated us for so long. But I have hope, and I hope that all of you do as well.
I myself have felt how self-destructive anger can be, as everyone has in at least once circumstance. It blocks the mind, is closely related to fear, and the two, when combined, lead directly to the sort of ignorance and intolerance that is preventing greater peace from being acheived by our race- the human race.
People like the Dalai Lama not only teach, they inspire. And I am proud to say that such people have indeed inspired me to take a stance against prejudice and the primitive traits which perpetually hold us back from attaining our true potential as a species.
And I surely hope that he has inspired most, if not all, of you as well.
Anger is fear turned inward, heightened by memories of inadequacy and ferociously projected onto the present, feeding negative expectation. Without the presence of that projected fear, one's experience would change b'cuz that defensive energy - or pushing back - would be absent. The experience would look and feel - and therefore be remembered - entirely differently. The removal of fear in one instance could change one's experiences forever, since the memory would then be positive, the next experience would be embraced defenselessly; thereby creating a new intention and releasing a whole different energy which would generate a positive expectation since expectation is simply desire mixed with belief.
Pride causes the anger . Those who have no pride are just dead people ..Do you want to see peace in the deadly society or in the lively one .. Pride is ultimate thing for human... That is the only thing that makes human to achieve their goals even they are good one or bad one or great one or worst one.. With out a goal there is meaning for a life ,, you cant describe what is life ...For great goals to be achieved they need to have the great pride which causes themselves to get them the extreme anger on themselves ,, about to reach their goals no matter what they have to scarify ... One's sacrifices in life makes him the best or the worst .. Oh come on I dont meant to say that some one is wrong or right .. I support to be anger is not bad at all if you can use it in a proper way to reach your goal .. or human beings are just simple human beings .. Greed n lust n anger they are just common .. No one cant erase even any person even the phiolosophers or sages if they live in physical society ... they will have all of these feelings .. Erasing them is impossible but we can convert them in to our strengths if we really want to live the peace ful life or happy life or what ever that one should have .. Thats it my stupidness ..I know every one has their own view but viewing view as itself as it is, is the impossible thing... People cant digest it ..so just I will stop this ..bye
We are all the same which is great to hear from the Dalai Lama but what is quite revealing is that anger is the opposite of Joy. Laughter makes us feel good so walking around being angry must have the opposite affect. I for one won't dwell on anger although i feel it regularly i let it wash over me and pass by. My life is precious and so are those around me i want them to feel happy and i want to feel good.
hey accidents usually happens on the road ,, so will you stop going on the road ? why some one wants accidents while using the greatest weapon ... so care ful ness is mind's spantaneous thing .. no one need to teach it ,,if u r really want and u need to get along the way ,, then you must walk but changing the way or stop walking is foolishness instead of facing yourself ,, there is nothing you can achieve in the world not even yourself
Anger is an emotional response which we can control. How we handle our emotions is a learned behavior which are formed by the outcomes we have experienced with the emotional responses we have chosen to display over time.
yeah ,, exactly .. no one cant accept our own faults ..cause we dont have the technology that can make us accept our faults or mistakes .. if u do mistake u must get retail output of punish .. u should accept your defeat or your mistake.. cause its life .. you must try not to repeat the same mistake..
I accept that I am a lier .. but if it can make my life as I wish then I wish to continue lie alll over my life .. life is life alone .. how I want I must live ,, cause I can only make the lie into truth one day while I am in life
I say that anger is not intrinsically bad. In fact, it can be a positive source of energy. However, for this to work, I believe that instead of trying to control or restrain anger, which is rather difficult, one is better off channeling anger into something righteous, making it righteous anger. It is much easier this way. Instead of trying to contain the steam, it is much easier to just release the steam through another, less destructive opening.
+Gareth Huxtable thank you, my thoughts exactly. Double H would do more good to teach people to embrace and understand all aspects of their selves, and find balance. I believe Buddhists call it the Middle Path?
it is known that arthritis is a major flow-on in the body from supressed anger over the years..We sometimes imagine that we are indestructable but we are not and our bodies wear the brunt of emotions that are better expressed than witheld...
In my ministry which I have being called by God ,I have willingly with love serve him by feeding his poorest of the poor. Formed crèches for poor children have soup kitchens for poor children a feeding scheme for families who are sick and jobless. I help the dying where ever I can to make their lives. Comfortable before they pass on. I work on the squatter camps in dangerous areas I am protected by God who has called me. To help his poorest Its a blessing to serve our lord and I do it with love
Look at all the animals they all have violence to survive but they use it in different ways .We are all animals ,but have the gift of conshonce and if we used the energy that causes us to get worked up Stopped took a beep breath and listen to the earth as she speakes thig will be better
I think of it this way: Yin and Yang. We have both inside us, the good and the bad. We must harmonize with both. One may get angry, but one must act appropriately; never lash out in anger. I am a software developer, and I learned long ago, being angry at a program not doing what I want, does not help me solve the problem. Need to stay rational even in moments of anger, so anger does not cause you to do something you will regret.
Good one!!! Unnecessary anger will display the animal inside like anger for money, material and lust. Necessary anger/bravery will show the love you have on your loved ones like protecting your kid,family from anti social elements...:)
I agree with most of this, but i disagree about anger not been natural, in the bible even Jesus showed anger at the people in the market for disgracing the temple, its a human emotion it is part of us. The point is not to let it control your life, its a matter of been in control of your emotions to be able to channel that negative energy onto other things like sports or phisical exercise, even taking a walk around the corner would be a way channel it. Remember living in peace is a choice so is living with anger.
MEGAN JAMES asked what do you do when your boss “blames and harasses her… and does things dangerous to patients and staff”.
Workplace Answer: It sounds like you and staff are legally “mandated reporters” of dangers to [abuse of] patients. And, it appears this abusive behavior has been going on for some time to multiple people, so start by asking those people what they see and do.
Personal Answer: If you know who you are, and Who to trust, then how can a desperately sick, self-righteous hypocrite like me help you?
Oooh..., poor poor +Ethan Lee I personally think that he really do cares about you that why he got mad at you sometimes if not every single hour in a day or may be because he thought you'd done something wrong in his eyes.
Wide ranging comments. It seems we have differing definitions and feelings about ‘anger’… and a lot of conclusions about what “it” does or does not do. Yet it seems this and other emotions are a dynamic within and between individuals, in a dynamic physical and spiritual situation, continually and individually colored by each of our perceptions of what is going on. It would seem then, that any person who perceives himself as an author or definer or measurer… does so on a most inadequate basis. Not that that stops us… from naturally helping and harming our fellow man.
+Ethan Lee my father deceased, sometimes I missed him so badly, even though when he still around he used to get mad at me quiet often. Sometimes he beat me up if I'm a bit rebellious that why I think you'll miss him when he's gone (believe me, I even miss his anger at me, I meant the way he got mad at me).
Grand it is but we are human beings capable of feeling and emotion not expressing your emotion damages you more than not venting it. Like poison do you remove it or let it slowly kill you. I agree with the moral understanding that your saying just not the practical side. Because happiness is food for the soul but we need anger and sadness to truly appreciate what happiness is
Without anger, would we be motivated to fight injustice and atrocities in this world? Is it really enough to have just some other negative affect like discomfort or rational evaluation about things to be motivated to change this world to a better place? I fully agree that excessive and especially unjustified anger is unhealthy and dangerous but I also do think that anger can also be an important driving force behind positive change.
+Alexander Neumann I don't think the message is to not have anger... that's impossible. Nor is it to suppress anger, since suppressing anger doesn't get rid of it. I believe the message is not to hold on to anger; not only will it harm you, but if you let it guide your actions when addressing atrocities and injustice, you may be doing more harm than good.
+Alexander Neumann Interesting take... but couldn't love of the people suffering such things also be the motivators? It would probably propigate a bit more understanding and make the toll of such changes less painful. Just a thought.
+Alexander Neumann Even by curtailing our anger we can see the need to remove variables from society that are creating trouble for citizens participating peacefully. Even if we were a completely angerless race we would still put criminals in jail and ticket the minor offenders.
Dear sir, with all due respect i beg to differ with you, its easier said than done... i am sure until you create this anger inside you... you can never control the result of your deed's... and on a stronger thought.. there is no harm in controlling emotions.. whats more harmful is not bringing them out when there is a need for it...
+Nicholas Howard, I personally think of the Dalai Lama as more of a spiritual leader than a religious one. I think that there is a big difference between faith (foundation of religion) and spirituality.
I think this is even more distinctive in regards to this particular post about an emotion and how it affects physical and mental health. If he had mentioned how it affects your soul, or your eligibility for entry into an afterlife paradise, then we'd be talking religion. :-)
+Chris Butler Hmm, good question and I am not sure. My comment was not so much about that anger is necessary but that it can be constructive. I mean certainly in principle love for justice can motivate equally as anger against injustice, However, could not both together be more powerful motivators then any single one of them? Let's do a thought experiment: Somebody plans to execute someone who is innocent and poses no danger to anyone. There is a chance that you can rescue him/her but also a very high chance that you would fail at your attempt and die. Let us assume the chance of dying is 90%, so there is a very high cost attached to the rescue attempt. What would motivate you to rescue the person more? If you just feel love for the person? If you feel just anger against killing innocent people? Or if you have both emotions?
My intuitive answer would be that both would be the most motivating emotions. Of course this is just my intuition on a a very artificial example, out of the top of my head I do not know about empirical research which would argue for it but I do not think it is unreasonable to guess that both emotions simultaneously would motivate the most.
+Jeff Demers I do not doubt that. Like I just replied to Chris, my point was not to argue that anger is necessary for positive change but that it can be constructive because it can motivate positive change (Just think about all the revolutions which lead to positive change, e.g. the arab spring as a recent example (when you are optimistic that it will be positive in the long run :) ), anger played often a huge role). This is the reason why "however, I try to recall that anger is a destructive emotion" seems to me to be too simplistic because anger can be destructive and constructive. So I agree with the Dalai Lama post with the restriction that it applies to excessive and unjustified anger but not universally to all anger.
+Steffi Wiese Before naying, just attempt to follow what Dalai Lama told: he does have anger too. What he does not recommend is to let yourself to be ruled by your anger. When you clearly know that you are angry with something, then you are still in control. You have certainly seen someone shouting on top of his voice that "I AM NOT ANGRY" and behaving on a way he will regret. Do you think this is natural?
Thank you, +Dalai Lama. Though I'm not that great at it, I do try and avoid anger with myself and others. I suppose this is not the only way to help our health, but I know of a close relative who seems to get angry very often and often is sick as well.
Desires fulfilled make you greedy. You want more. Failure or desires unfulfilled lead to anger. So the root cause is desires. But its very difficult not to desire as humans. The only solution is that we can divert these desires to the Supreme Lord. It's like a small baby who does not worry about what to eat, drink and other activities. He or She is totally depend on parents.
anger sucks. It can also destroy the body in other ways , for instance u could get mad . Punch a wall and accidentley find the stud, break your hand and be in a cast for several weeks. then you miss work! not saying it happened to me but you get the picture.
As a former health care worker, I can tell you that this is so very true. I've seen it in so many people. Anger eats at you and thus at your body. A good friend gave me the best advice I've ever had. She told me I was the one in charge of my happiness, and I've tried to live by this.
+Dalai Lama Thanks for sharing a nice thought. I feel, anger is also one of the integral part of our feelings and serve as an outlet for emotion. I think it is kind of necessary to relieve pressure within by expressing it ! Rather than suppressing this natural feeling one should express it, of course in a manner that it wont harm other being.
Ephesians 4:26--Be angry, but do not sin. If there is an occasion to express displeasure at what is wrong, and to reprove. It's ok to be angry, but do it without sin. We give in to satan when the first emotions of sin are not grievous. Anger is one of those emotions that take us by surprise. No one is looking forward to being angy but it happens . We need to be very careful how we deal with anger; Because When we consent to sin and repeat an evil deed we notice that sin invites satan into our lives and this is something we need to avoid. So, yes we can be angry; but we need to find a way to resolve the issue without sin.
For sure,the people,who read you and listen,are trying avoid anger in them,but it's really very difficult to do this with such a life,which is full of problems..Even the thought,that you are not able to help at leat to your friends and your family makes us more than angry...I always remind myself,that the anger will not help me,but it needs a loooong way to take it away..
Anger is like pain it tells you that SOMETHING is wrong. Not inside your body but in the world outside. If the Anger Alarm rings told us that something is wrong, we should calm it, because it served its purpouse. After clearing our mind we then should analyze what problem the Anger wanted us to warn us from and take calm and intelligent actions towards finding and solving the true source of the 'pain'.
With great respects to His Holiness let me add: Scientists must turn their attention to find out proper medicine, in pill form or injection or additive to food or drinks, to suppress the violence generating harmone. That is the future medicine.
How do we learn, especially under these conditions, to identify the causes of anger and take effective action against the root? What if the only effective action is digging something up by its roots and burning it to ash? Otherwise, completely avoidable suffering by countless hundreds of millions of people will increase?
So true anything that you say or do in anger takes away from your spirit. I myself never benefit from it. It usually makes things worst. But when i remain calm and peacefull i can see and do things right. This way i always win.
+Joshua Johnson It's a verified account, but yes of course it is extremely unlikely that he is physically at the keyboard updating his G+ status. Many celebrities don't update their own websites / blogs either.
I agree with +tianjun yin . Without anger, you could not be a complete human being. Certain, expression and emotion exists because they serve a purpose. Not every emotion is detrimental. Besides, that's what anger. The earlier you release your anger the easier it is to get over it. +Dalai Lama is wrong. You keep your anger inside you and you die. Either by heart attack or suicide. Psychology 101. Not everything that a spritual figure said is right. Most of the time, they just put it in the proper context by proving the wrong-er things with the wrong one. Like they say, lesser evil.
Let's give ourselves a break and teach ourselves to think.
I read the thread and there's a lot of people who used their brains to nullify this statement. The words of the wise aren't always wise. Most of the times, it just sounds wise. Every thing inside the human being is essential. If it isn't why was it created anyway?
It is important to not fight our anger. While it is a destructive emotion, trying to erase your nature is equally as destructive. Feel your anger but don't give into it, and listen to what it is showing you.
+Vher Samuel Mitra Aggabao That presumes we were created and that we are now exactly as we were created, whenever that happened, and that the purpose of a person is immutable over time. I have nails. I probably have nails for some reason. That reason is of no use to me. There's also a cost for having nails (harder to type, gets caught on things, etc etc). Therefore, I cut my nails, and improve my initial state.
I find anger hurts the one who is experiencing it more than the object of the anger. Blood vessels constrict and the heart races with the intensity of the emotion. Sometimes your brain feels like it is being squeezed as well. Why is the body so connected to this feeling?
+Vher Samuel Mitra Aggabao I think this only shows how much our today's society has differed from the human beings we were made to be. Anger is a natural instinct to defend your territory/freedom/position in a group (like monkey alphas fight). Now today if you look at the world, you can see first how many humans we are on this planet, and then how close we live next to each other. We are a huge mass of living creatures put together and we have to follow certain rules (society/law) which do not agree with our instincts.
We are just too many and we are not living the way we were supposed to live, when we were made.
I guess there are both positives and negatives to each of our emotions. Even fear: While some of the fears we have may prevent us from developing and reaching our potential, others protect us from danger and keep us safe. Bottom line: Everything in moderation
How true. Anger and internal conflict so often produce disease in the body. One of my sons is prone to anger and other stressful emotional disturbances, has been all his life, and is often sickly or complaining of some low-level discomfort. I always say "It is okay to be angry," but happiness is the best medicine!
I was going to say something about the Bible but Tyler ordered me to shut up so now I can't say anything. Everything HHDL says may be true. But c'mon now. Fess. Everyone thinks of a little revenge once in a while, eh? The Bible records "Vengeance is Mine, sayeth the Lord.". Maybe that's because it's the most fun. Oops! Sorry Tyler. Amen. Haha
Anger can be used constructively, if you know how. It can deepen your resolve, strengthen you when want to give up, and actually give you clarity of purpose among other things. Don't fight your anger, redirect it into a self-positive force.
With respect, I completely disagree with this judgment of our emotions. Anger isn't destructive, how it's used, misused and abused can be. Avoiding our anger can be just as destructive as expressing it violently. Allowing ourselves to feel anger also provides the ground for real compassion, rather than idiot compassion.
All life forms would instinctively use force for their survival, be it killing for food or self-defense. Violence is the use of unnecessary force not related to an organism's survival, social or individual.
+Dalai Lama - Thank you so very much for your honesty. Do you have any specific practices besides trying to recall that it is a destructive emotion? Mine comes up at bedtime, when my day is done and I am trying to sleep.
I read this in a book: "Anger is a natural emotion. It is the tool you have which allows you to say, “No, thank you.” It does not have to be abusive, and it never has to be damaging to another. When children are allowed to express their anger, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their anger very quickly. Children who are made to feel that their anger is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their anger as adults. Anger that is continually repressed becomes rage, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of rage. Wars have started, nations have fallen."
I would agree, though my experiences have taught be that channeling anger into something positive in other words divert it into a content in which it will strengthen one understanding of oneself and generate a positive income is a much sufficient way to dispose of it appose to simply ignoring it. I believe that ignoring things just prolongs the lessons that come and can be gain from them ( this suggestion of not ignoring is only meant to be applied for something that is of a natural nature as is the emotion of anger but not to be applied to the superficial logical state of mental thinking of people because conclusion of physical thought not of nature but of a conclusion of that is uncertain is at times best to be ignore.) In other words understanding your anger can facilitate your understanding of how to control it and give you a glimpse of your mental weakness and strength, for anger usually comes from a selfish want unachieved of one self due to the restrained from a situations, or other people, so an unaccomplished sense that overwhelms our rational thinking and emotions takes over one's essence of peaceful being and we are fluttered by a false sense of an un-accomplished feeling that unbalances one's state of being. When one understands this and one experiences anger then you spiritually upgrade your emotional strength gaining more control and strengthening the mind over the body.
+Marta Olle-Laprune Books have all kinds of stuff, both right and wrong. What is your experience? Because HH is not saying to repress anger but to understand that by its very nature, it is damaging to us.
Anger doesn't just dwell in the hearts of the foolish or the proud. Sometimes it is felt by those who've been very badly wronged. Wronged in such a way that it's very difficult confront these memories in their minds. I think we sometimes need to support people to acknowledge and feel their anger, so that they can release it and move on.
I hope someday to have anger leave my life, as well as the lives of all I love. In the meanwhile, I think it is important to try to harness any anger one DOES possess and direct that energy to perform a positive act. Thank you Dalai Lama for bringing so much peace into this planet!
Anger feels destructive to others and yourself so anything which can help to avoid anger can only be good. So much goes wrong based on anger and when you start looking at history it seems the main source of great conflicts.
I don't agree. When Dalai Lama says: "We shouldn’t welcome it (anger) or think of it as natural or as a friend.", I think this is a hurtful statement. When we say NO to ANY emotion we experience (and anger is one of them), we immediately create a state of WAR in ourselves. And this state of war is very harmful for our health, and NOT the anger itself. Instead, we can just welcome the emotion, whatever it is, and then we have a choice to release it, when we feel its not good for us (as in case of anger). Doing so, we are in acceptance and embracing state, instead of war. We don't want to be at war, we want to be at peace. I know this works for me, when I resist anger, I suffer. So, welcome the anger and release. Don't resist, don't fight.
I see a lot of people who seem confused on what anger really is. The Dalai Lama did not say not to have anger, but instead resolve the issue that is causing the anger and not welcome the anger as normal in our life at that time. Everyone has had anger, and everyone who is human will always have anger at some point in their life. It is how you deal with it (and everything else in life) that defines you as a person, so be the best person you can be and deal with the anger appropriately (hopefully without voilence).
I used to carry a little piece of paper in my wallet with a quote on it that I clipped out of a newspaper. It said "Anger destroys the vessel it is stored in." If we could all try to remember that anger is like an acid that eats away at us if we carry it inside, it would change many things for the better.
Philipp Dunkel. My apology. But anger makes me work on manufacturing and production machines much much better than peace. Anger makes invention. Its a necessity in humans. Dalai lama must be a masaai in Asia...that is absolute to mother of all inventions. Be in any position in life anger and anger makes you progress. Dont play smart, dont play clever. Just be your own self.
Abd al Rahman Adeel. Thanks for that instant move. Dalai lama of burma and Dalai lama of Tibet... politics. Remember Yugoslavia? Bush senior let muslims slaughtered while moving the world to somalia. They lost the plot and when Bill Clinton was in office removed all troops from somalia and took care of yugoslavia for re-election. Play chess but understand it.
Actually, from a psychological (well, western psychological) point of view, anger...like any other emotion...possesses neither a positive nor negative value. It is merely an emotion. Thus, anger in and of itself is NOT a problem.
What IS a problem is HOW anger is expressed. If one chooses to keep their anger internalized and not express it to others, then the Dalai Lama is right...it becomes destructive. If instead we choose to express it violently, again it becomes very destructive. However, if one chooses to express one's anger in an assertive, yet non-aggressive manner, it becomes a healthy emotion that can actually further one's peace of mind without doing harm to one's mental, physical, or emotional health.
yeah, that's all cool, mr. Dalai Lama.....but at times a little violence can be a good thing. Everything isn't always honky dorey. And the power that you can feel when delivering a right hook to some mofo's jaw is enlightening. I am not saying that to be angry all the time is a good thing. Choose your battles carefully. You will know when to use that anger in a positive way.
yes, pacifism...If you are near my age; then you know exactly where lots of pacifists ended up. World War II anyone? I didn't see anyone not minding the States getting involved in that war. We went and kicked some Nazi Ass. And here is your history lesson for today. What country was one of the American's most important Allies. Hint...They are in northern Europe.
But is it ok if take it out on my pillow cause that helps everyone and me because after I punch it and I feel better and people around me won't feel awkward because I'm upset and I can sleep better at night because of a soft pillow.
The most important thing to remember in this life is that jesus said i am the way, truth, and the life no one comes to the father but through jesus, my sheep know my voice and follow me but a stranger wont, the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing but to us it is the power of god to save
For the man who made the private comment to me about not reading the bible. First of all, my dear man....I am a student and practitioner of the Esoteric Arts. I don't believe that you will understand what that is, so wiki it. I don't need to explain. As for bibles, I have studied many and their religions. There is good in all as there is negative in all. Now, I don't feel a need to defend myself or my opinions to you anymore. You cannot talk sensibly with others who are pig-headed, narrow minded, or just plain fucken stooopid. With that being said; if I were you, I may consider reading the Wisdom Books of the Bible. Good Luck on your journey and my peace follow you.
When you make 22 million dollars a year, worshiped by millions, and lives in a palace, get to travel any country of your choice in the world. There are no reason for you to be angry at all. But for average people like me, who is trying to earn a living, paying the bills, raising the young, being stuck at traffic, or put up with jerks at work. A little anger is part of life, part of life journey.
+Jonathan Cutting See my comment earlier with regards to answering your question about keeping anger internal. However, to speed things up and sum up...
Internalizing your anger can lead to feeling depressed, lowered self-esteem, poorer physical health due to a depressed immune system, and difficulty concentrating and poor memory recall. That should sum things up quite well for internalized anger.
thank you for your comments. I agree with your comment on anger. People use to tell me they were afraid of me because i was so angry. Why because I held resentment and felt bad about myself took me 60 yrs to over come and en lightment to understand I needed to release it.
I don't understand the "before I start the car I know where I am going. If the car goes fast, I go fast. The car and I are one." When I honestly don't know where I am going in life; I take my time to enjoy the beauty in life, yet I still am out of sorts with life and people for I am not fast or smart, beautiful enough. I know all of this angers me.
Emotions contain a huge amount of valuable information. They are an "input". Your task is to develop the ability to recognize the input and use it to your advantage. Cognitive psychotherapy, emotional intelligence training, and meditation practice can help. Dedication and hard work are required.
The only thing that annoys me is my disobedience to my Lord.anger is unattractive! I have great peace of mind.there are way too many people with issuance it can only be resolved by believing and submitting to the all Dominating Creator and thus acquiring peace.
Destroys physical health for sure, heart failure is one of the out comes I am a example of that, even if I get angry now my heart responds in a negative way. It takes much more control to remain calm in life, being calm has its rewards. It seems it is always hard to build than it is to destroy even ourselves.
Then why did God give it to us? it must have a function, a role to play. and if we control o suppress it, it goes against the law of nature which is to experiences it. i think when we 'talk' to our anger, and listen to it we will find the solution...the solution points to the 'belief' we have about ourself ...which is more difficult to handle than being angry at others!
There are scenarios where someone should get annoyed for example in a situation where a person pummels you, blackmails you, robs,divorce you for the mistakes you have not actually done ; I would tell you brethren that anger is one of mankind's feelings but you can control it.