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It started with a clippers trim. Then they broke. For a while I looked like Sally Draper from MAD MEN, when she cut her own hair. I had no choice left me!
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Whoa!  It's like when Alex Trebek first shaved off his mustache!  :)
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Okay, folks, I'm ready for visitors. Oh, and I have a PT appointment in the (stupid) early morning on Tuesday the 9th at (stupid) 8:20 am on 130th near Lake City Way. Any one up that (stupid) early and interested in giving a gimp a ride?

Coffee and a donut lie in store after for the brave soul.
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Well, peeps, tomorrow is the day.

Many of you perhaps are not aware of why I've been singing and writing more, doing readings and composing songs for the past year or so, and performing on stage less.

THE BRIEF STORY: At the dance callback for the 5th Avenue's "Damn Yankees" I tore my meniscus and had arthroscopic surgery. After the operation (and after several months without the expected improvement) I discovered that 50% of the cartilage in my right knee was gone. Two years later, after trying many therapies and finding no lasting improvement in the reduction of arthritic pain, I decided to fix it for good. Tomorrow I go in for a full knee replacement.

I'll be staying with friends Maria Diaz and her husband Robert post-surgery for a while, and Jeff and Rachel R. Sorrels have graciously offered to bring Thanksgiving to me in my home this year.

THE BOTTOM LINE:  I'll be home-bound (unable to drive) for a while and y'all are more than welcome to visit, chew some fat, play some cribbage, or sing some songs. Or take me to a movie. 8[]

I'll still be showing up online occasionally. And I finally am forced to concentrate on finishing my second novel.

Fond affection to you all and ciao per now.

Bobby D
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Wishing you well!
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Sad pen. :(
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Just completed an EffectiveArts gig for this amazing organization.

And EA is amazing in its own right -- oh, the good they do!

A very satisfying and rewarding two-day gig -- the kind that makes me proud to be an actor.
For people who care about sight restoration, SightLife is the only global health organization solely focused on eliminating corneal blindness in the U.S. and internationally.
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Phone-book Frank from the L.A. Ripley's Believe It Or Not Museum lobby.
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Cool pic that shows your reflection over Frank. :)
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The Leader of the Band Has Died.

Paul A. De Dea, Sr.  (the First)
October 26, 1925 - December 5, 2014 @ 1:30 pm EST

I found out on Monday from my middle brother Steve that my father had pretty much decided he'd had enough.

In July of 2013 he entered an assisted living facility. Earlier this year (2014), after mom (Mary) had a mini-stroke and was hospitalized, dad was transferred to another AL facility, where mom joined him after she came out of rehab. They shared a room as they had most of their lives.

About a month ago, pop was again transferred to a rehab facility for dehydration and what the staff called "sundown syndrome".

Sometime in the past couple of weeks, he just gave up. He was placed into hospice care within the same facility.

For a while I was angry with him for giving in to despair. But given the degradation of his quality of life over the past couple of years, I think I can understand him now.

Because of macular degeneration, dad lost the ability to see clearly. Most of his days when his vision had been intact were spent looking out the window, sitting on the porch and "neighborhood gazing", doing his Search-A-Word puzzles, playing cards or other games, or watching TV. Everything that he enjoyed involved eyesight. Take away that and the ability to gaze upon those you love and the mind abides in a world of darkness, and begins to fashion its own reality out of dreams and recollections, shadows and vague imaginings.

Dad was not in pain. He did not suffer from a debilitating illness, although his physical body needed help from time to time. He refused bandages or IVs, taking in water only through a straw held over his lips. When I talked to him, I could not make out the words spoken by a voice I did not recognize. Only after I said, "I love you, dad," did I recognize his feeble attempt to reply, "Love you too."

Part of him was still there.

He simply at some point in his psyche chose to stop living in his current condition. He chose death over an unsatisfying and no longer joyous life.

I respect that immensely.

I will miss him immeasurably.

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July 1997

I was driving home from New Paris with my dad, soon to be 72, in the passenger’s seat.  On a whim and with some apprehension -- it was not easy to talk to my parents about important things -- I asked him, if he had it all to do over, would he do anything differently?  To my surprise and slight amusement, he replied, “Not that I can think of .”  He went on to explain:  “I’m happy as I am.  As I was.”

I couldn’t help but laugh and fumblingly backpedal, trying to explain that I asked out of curiosity, nothing more.  He said, “I don’t think I did anything wrong.... Drastically wrong, that is.”

I sat there, dumbfounded.

Of course, there were dozens -- hundreds -- thousands of things in my 38 years that I would have done differently.  Granted, most were minor, but there was the occasional significant choice that I just might change had I been given George Bailey’s second chance.  But despite all that, there were things in my father’s life that I knew he could have done better:  his difficulty with taking responsibility for his anger, his tendency toward overindulgence with the bottle, his -- then it struck me.

He had done all he could; in his mind, his was the best possible life he could forge for himself out of the raw materials of his upbringing and circumstances and temperament.  It occurred to me -- finally occurred to me, after decades of introspection, weeks of therapy, and countless conversations with friends and family -- I no longer could stand in judgment of my father.  What I want and who I am and what I expect from myself are a far cry from what my father wanted and who he is and what he expects from life and from himself. 

And I know now, in his simplicity, he is the happier.
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Tonight's the night! Last chance to catch my Sinatra tribute this year. 8]
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Amazing he is!
An expert magician, avid debunker and scourge of spiritualists and con men prepares for the final curtain.
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I came here looking for a great cup of coffee, based on the reviews. I judge my java based on an Americano, so that's what I ordered (by the way, be forewarned: any traditional espresso joint will charge the same price for any size Americano because they just add more hot water to a double shot - not so here - $2 for small, $2.50 for medium, $3 for large). Well, it tasted like a weak cup of drip coffee (even though the proprietor said she used "three scoops"). Needless to say, I wouldn't come back for the coffee. But the hemp chocolate chip cookie was delicious!
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I stumbled upon these guys while using a coupon for a massage. I was having issues with my back because of a knee injury. Dr. Luther has been terrific, taking his time to explain and explore my body mechanics. Sarah at the front desk is a sweeite too. Align had a great introductory offer and they take most insurance. I'm in the middle of my sessions and look forward to every appointment. (And he's got this great muscle-clobberer-thingie that I love!) If you're looking for a great chiropractor, you owe it to yourself to check out Align Integrative Health. :)
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