Integrity and honesty, right? So there's authenticity. Truthfulness.
Modesty? Sure, but not the "stink and sainthood" type. Confidence for sure, and maybe even assertiveness, but no sort of bully. Leadership yes, but //team// leadership. Not self-congratulatory.
Now think of someone who's more than just mean. More than nasty. Wicked? old-fashion word. Evil? I've always had trouble with that word as a term. But you get the idea. Gotta include sneaky and manipulative. Funny thing? "sneaky" can actually be done with charm. Especially for manipulation / exploitation ... like the charismatic cult leader.
Can we at least be clear about the continuum?
I wouldn't say all cracKKKers are the evil type. But I might say most are.
I woudln't say that red-necks are the evil type. But I suppose some are, maybe even many.
I wouldn't say that Joe and Jane Average are the paradigm of virtue types.
There. That. Whatever came to mind when you read that, whatever you thought when you read the Joe/Jane sentence ... that's my point.
The other stuff is "cognitive priming". To set the stage, so to speak. To create a context.
What we need to acknowledge is the sort of thing that Joe and Jane do. Not just broad strokes like "raised children" or "managed their" finances. Not even broad like "didn't abuse the people around them".
I mean the nuts and bolts.
p.s. that's the stuff of Zen. truly