I don't think it's right to disclose while in heat — that's really a bit of a dick move, 'cause it's taking ~coercive advantage of someone's arousal to get them to do something they might not do if they were sober, and deprives them of better access to information. The last time I had this kind of conversation was while cuddling during a (very nice) second date, which I considered very thoughtful of them.

Herpes is an interesting base case for an STD. It has nearly zero medical impact (with access to modern medicine); about as benign as such things can get. Most people have HSV1 and a pretty large proportion have HSV2. So really, it's all about the purely mental aspects, like stigma and disclosure.

Anyway, interesting article. Go read.

/via Dan Savage
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