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Works at River Valley Baptist Church and Blogs at Turning the Page
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Toxic shame is the 'glue' that holds the wall of denial together and keeps hurting people from accepting the help they need.
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Mental health is ... creating tomorrow with the attitudes, choices, values and behaviours you are using today.
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DO YOU HAVE DEBRIS?
 
Of course you do! Disappointments, resentments, hurts, traumas, memoirs of grief, shame, lose, boundary incursions all sitting there under the mask of everything being good and ok. Holding that mask takes effort, intentionality and a type of hiddenness where no one is allowed to go.

Richard Rohr believes that “if you do not transform your pain, you will surely transmit it to those around you and the next generation”

What am I to do with debris?

If I don’t do something with the debri it will eventually kill, smother, suffocate the life that it is in me. It will pus out and affect others, especially those you love.

- See more at: http://turningthepage.info/dealing-with-the-debris/#sthash.NJndU4Th.dpuf
We all have some debris in our lives. Rubbish, trash, pain, memories. How do we transform the debris into something good. Answer - we need a gardener
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DO YOU HAVE DEBRIS?
 
Of course you do! Disappointments, resentments, hurts, traumas, memoirs of grief, shame, lose, boundary incursions all sitting there under the mask of everything being good and ok. Holding that mask takes effort, intentionality and a type of hiddenness where no one is allowed to go.

Richard Rohr believes that “if you do not transform your pain, you will surely transmit it to those around you and the next generation”

What am I to do with debris?

If I don’t do something with the debri it will eventually kill, smother, suffocate the life that it is in me. It will pus out and affect others, especially those you love.

- See more at: http://turningthepage.info/dealing-with-the-debris/#sthash.NJndU4Th.dpuf
We all have some debris in our lives. Rubbish, trash, pain, memories. How do we transform the debris into something good. Answer - we need a gardener
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All great spirituality teaches about letting go of what you don’t need and who you are not.

Then, when you can get little enough and naked enough and poor enough, you’ll find that the little place where you really are is ironically more than enough and is all that you need. At that place, you will have nothing to prove to anybody and nothing to protect.

That place is called freedom. It’s the freedom of the children of God. Such people can connect with everybody. They don’t feel the need to eliminate anybody . . .” 
― Richard Rohr, 

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You’ve got to be willing to hear and tell your own stories of shame @danallender http://marshill.org/teaching/2015/03/15/the-life-of-jesus-washer-fluid/ #shame 
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That mean you will think😄 and not act😄😄!!
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What life lessons have you learned from gardening/ nature?

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DO YOU HAVE DEBRIS?
 
Of course you do! Disappointments, resentments, hurts, traumas, memoirs of grief, shame, lose, boundary incursions all sitting there under the mask of everything being good and ok. Holding that mask takes effort, intentionality and a type of hiddenness where no one is allowed to go.

Richard Rohr believes that “if you do not transform your pain, you will surely transmit it to those around you and the next generation”

What am I to do with debris?

If I don’t do something with the debri it will eventually kill, smother, suffocate the life that it is in me. It will pus out and affect others, especially those you love.

- See more at: http://turningthepage.info/dealing-with-the-debris/#sthash.NJndU4Th.dpuf
We all have some debris in our lives. Rubbish, trash, pain, memories. How do we transform the debris into something good. Answer - we need a gardener
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DO YOU HAVE DEBRIS?
 
Of course you do! Disappointments, resentments, hurts, traumas, memoirs of grief, shame, lose, boundary incursions all sitting there under the mask of everything being good and ok. Holding that mask takes effort, intentionality and a type of hiddenness where no one is allowed to go.

Richard Rohr believes that “if you do not transform your pain, you will surely transmit it to those around you and the next generation”

What am I to do with debris?

If I don’t do something with the debri it will eventually kill, smother, suffocate the life that it is in me. It will pus out and affect others, especially those you love.

- See more at: http://turningthepage.info/dealing-with-the-debris/#sthash.NJndU4Th.dpuf
We all have some debris in our lives. Rubbish, trash, pain, memories. How do we transform the debris into something good. Answer - we need a gardener
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How do you deal with the debris of life? Try and hide from them? Blame others for them?
http://turningthepage.info/dealing-with-the-debris/
We all have some debris in our lives. Rubbish, trash, pain, memories. How do we transform the debris into something good. Answer - we need a gardener
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You’ve got to be willing to hear and tell your own stories of shame @danallender http://marshill.org/teaching/2015/03/15/the-life-of-jesus-washer-fluid/ #shame 
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Self-help courses will only help you if they teach you to pay attention to life itself. Richard Rohr OFM 
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I am a Pastor and also Blogger
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  • River Valley Baptist Church and Blogs at Turning the Page
    Pastor, 2012 - present
  • Windsor Park Baptist Church
    Community Chaplain, 1998 - 2011
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Wellsford - Helensville - Palmerston North
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Come and visit my blog Turning the Page. I have free eBook for new subscribers. 'The Unguided Pastoral Missile' will give you 5 basic things you need to know to help others
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  • Carey Baptist College
    Applied Theology, 1999 - 2010
  • Massey University
    Agriculture, 1981 - 1985
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