We realize Valentine’s Day has passed, but given all those lawyers and their lovers, spouses, and would-be darlings, we couldn’t pass up a chance to write about “how to successfully date a lawyer.” Since most of the advice and tips we write about include a caveat of not being legal advice, with the best course of action to consult your Utah attorney, here’s an article departing from that trend: relationship advice. (Probably consult your friends and family and trusted love-advice columns for guidance, too.)
Not all lawyers are “aggressive, feisty, demanding and domineering,” though the traits that make that hunk of gorgeous Utah attorney successful in the cut-throat legal world so successful may make dating him somewhat more difficult. The trick is finding that sweet spot amid flexibility and patience that “can turn even argumentative brutes into dinner party-appropriate companions.” And even while that’s probably not an entirely fair characterization of attorneys, learning the art of concession, and choosing your battles wisely can go far in winning your partner’s respect and admiration. It takes stamina to argue with an attorney who is trained to “over-analyze and nitpick their opponent’s position with far greater enthusiasm than a normal person,” so learning when to concede and when to push through is crucial for a happy relationship.
Hide them from your family.
Okay, that was a little dramatic, but seriously, advise your family not to pester your partner for free legal advice over the dinner table. Thanksgiving Day celebrations are hardly the appropriate time to spend 90 minutes “discussing Aunt Melanie’s dispute with the homeowners association over the height of her fence and width of her hot tub.” Seriously, your family’s asking your Utah attorney beau or beauty for free legal advice is inappropriate and a red flag for them. They’ll make excuses not to come back next year.
Showing a little interest in your sweetheart’s work is good advice regardless of their profession. “Engaging in some thorough discussions with your lawyer partner about his or her day can help improve your bond” and boost their self-confidence.
If we’ve given the impression that dating a Utah attorney might be somewhat of a high-maintenance investment, well—don’t take our word for it. If you’ve been crushing on the girl next door who’s rarely home, but looks glamorous in her high-powered suits and pumps when she is, or if you’ve had your eye on that handsome friend of your cousin’s who just became a partner at that prestigious Salt Lake law firm, don’t let us put you off. Dating a lawyer can be hard work, sure, but making a relationship last with anyone is a challenge.
We just recommend keeping in mind that “most lawyers are driven, over-achieving perfectionists with no concept of downtime,” so you might just have to drag them out of their work-world to a night on the town or a mini-vacation that they’ve been working so hard that they’ve forgotten they needed to take.