In this country, it frequently comes down to sex. Men feel entitled to access to women, and despite the fear-mongering about permissive sexuality and hookup culture, many of the men that resort to these horrific crimes have previously been unable to find sexual partners.
It's easy to see how Dowd arrives at these conclusions, but it's difficult to accept his ultimate point: that the onus is on us to make sure men don't get left out. What does that mean, exactly? Should we privilege men because they might turn to violence if we don't? Letting men have the jobs instead of more qualified women or transgender folks because they'll shoot up the office if we don't? How many women and trans women (and even men and trans men) sleep with men they'd rather not because saying "no" might lead to violence?
No, I don't agree that we should walk on eggshells because someone feels entitled to something they have not earned, or something another party doesn't want to participate in. The solution isn't that. But I do see how we may participate in a solution to address the root of the entitlement. However, in order to do that, we need to interrogate the messages we collude in reinforcing in our society about what it means to be a man in the same way we are interrogating what it means to be a woman.
Despite the steps forward feminism has made to challenge sexism as it relates to women, a lot of sexist ideas relating to men continue to go unaddressed. A recent example is the mockery surrounding that group of men who determined to actively choose celibacy or limited relationships to deal with the powerlessness they feel. The mockery they faced signaled not only to them, but to all men, once again, that to be a man and not be sexual or maintain viable relationships is to face certain ridicule.
If feminism is about equality, it must address the constructs that dictate a man is only valuable if he's financially or sexually successful, just as it does the constructs that a woman's worth is dictated by her caretaking and sexual "purity." It must acknowledge that men can be subject to sexual violence, human trafficking, and domestic abuse. Men may perpetrate a significant fraction of these crimes, but that doesn't mean men are immune to them. Failure to acknowledge this is to reinforce an aspect of the structure we're trying to bring down.
This isn't about coddling. It's about continuing what we're doing to dismantle toxic social and gender constructs. Changing gun laws will likely decrease these senseless acts, but these are a symptom -- gender messaging is the disease.
Because imagine that. When people aren't constantly working to survive they actually like to better themselves and their kids.
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