http://nostalgebraist.tumblr.com/post/119363616494/thathopeyetlives-extracting-actually-usefulHowever, there is a situation where I find the word and its negative connotations very useful, and that’s when people take the step from “I am hurting” to “it is your responsibility to alleviate my pain.”
What? No. It's absolutely my responsibility to alleviate your pain. Everyone's pain. Every time I don't do so I have failed in my duty as a moral being. Not knowing is no excuse either; just because I did not hear the cry of a sparrow does not mean it did not fall, and blocking out the sound of your pain is the least
moral way to avoid fixing it.
This sounds unreasonable, I know. But this is why I like to talk so much in my moral philosophy about the differences between failing or being flawed and being, well, a bad person. I wrote a post about this a while ago  but the key point is that so much of modern society seems to operate on the syllogism
- I am/do/have X
- if X were a bad thing, that'd mean I was evil.
- Therefore X can't be bad!
This bothers me. We need to be able to accept that we are flawed, that we are--for lack of a better word--sinners, but that doesn't mean we're worthless
. That we can try, and fail, but still keep trying, and still be OK with our moral actions. Maybe not satisfied--maybe never fully satisfied--but not utter failures either.
Your pain is my problem. I don't, I can't, always manage to fix it. I make no apologies for being limited or needing to spend resources on my own sanity or, honestly, enjoyment. I am not perfect.
But I am trying to get better. And the first step is acknowledging that while I'm not God, I sure as hell would like to be.